This week, I am reflecting on the loss of a sweet person who passed. He lived nearby and we saw him often. We didn’t know a lot about him personally because he kept that to himself. But, he always had a warm smile and something kind to say. He enjoyed watching birds and talking about the weather—always the simple things in life.

With his passing, many of us are reflecting on life itself. I believe that death can bring out the positive(s) and change in people.

Our hearts at this time are also a bit raw, and emotions are running high.

A friend lost her patience a day ago. I remarked that she seemed a bit bossy and it made her difficult to work around. She replied, “I know. I just blurt things out.” I agreed with her and said, “I think it is healthy that you don’t internalize. Not that I handle things correctly compared to you, but I always strive to be diplomatic.” She nodded her head, “I am far from diplomatic. I cannot change at 62 years old. I’ve always been this way!” Hmmm. Big sigh. “Sister, I believe life is a forever-changing thing. God wants us to grow personally, spiritually, and professionally (for those that work).” The expression on her face took on a different look. I hope my words helped her.

Yes, I believe we should always strive for change. As a life coach, I am tuned into the negative and stubborn words that typically stop us in our tracks (i.e., excuses), such as: “I cannot,” “I refuse,” “I have always been this way,” or “I can never.” Change is always possible.

For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God. Colossians 1:9-10 (NIV)

Most of my writing (here, Mary Humphrey Coaching, and my prior Annies Goat Hill) has been inspired by learning new things, and listening to and observing others. For over a decade, it is as if God nudges me in the gut, “What have you learned, dear daughter?” And then, there is no such thing as not sharing. I either get out the video camera, or I write a blog. Sometimes, it goes into my prayer journal first. There is always something to note. There is always something to learn by. I treasure it! Occasionally, it seems as it it ‘goes silent,’ but then…there it is! (That’s my story…I would love to hear yours!)

Is personal growth important to you? When you grow or learn, do you feel drawn to share your lessons with others? Do you believe your personal growth blends in with your spiritual growth (or perhaps you consider them the same)?